Found out my roomate's GF used to be a mega-ho

[FortunaMaximus]

Well put, Dom. But you have to concede this determines a person's maturity and his capability to grow.

The entertainment value of this thread, for me, is perplexity at the lack of maturity, sometimes. It's nice to have the metric.

[swede123]

The important question (not asked in the first fifty replies so I assume it wasn't asked) did she do Lumberg?

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[Hopey]

Great post, Dom. I couldn't agree more and it's what I've been saying all along.

It looks like the OP agrees with us, thankfully.

[cbloom]

If this was a girl I was with, I'd just want to know that she'd been thoroughly tested.

[mikech]

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She does not owe her boyfriend - or anyone - a blow by blow description of her past sexual history.

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she doesn't owe her fiance/husband an honest account of her past? ok, if she's a convicted felon is that info off-limits also? furthermore, if she has changed/grown then why should she feel the need to conceal this aspect of her "growth"? i would expect her to give me all the available information, i can then accept it or not. personally i'd have no problem at all with maria's sexual history; joe may or may not, but he deserves to know, in order to make an informed decision as to whether he wants to MARRY her. i suppose you just have different expectations regarding how well you need to know the person you intend to MARRY.

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Grow the [censored] up.

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the fact that someone would want his future wife to be totally open and up-front and honest about her past to him (and not assume that he'd think poorly of her) is obviously lost on you. you also seem to be confusing wanting to know all the facts with a judgmental/negative interpretation of those facts. the former does not equal the latter. i believe husbands/wives have a right to the former when it comes to their spouses, and that honest communication is essential for a marriage to succeed; you might not. it doesn't make you more mature.

[bernie]

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#1 This is none of your business

#2 This is none of your business

3# If Maria wants to start over and forget a past others might find objentionable (YOU, perhaps??) it is - I repeat -NONE OF YOUR [censored] BUSINESS.

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hang on, look at it from another perspective: let's say you are joe. your best friend has found out some things about your gf's past, which she has kept hidden from you. you have a certain perception of who she is, what she has done, what she's about, yet it turns out she has misrepresented herself to you--and this is the woman you are likely to marry. would you want your best friend to tell you what he knows? i sure would.

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Then you are obviously a kid without any real experience in relationships. Maria has not misrepresented herself, she has grown, she has changed. She does not owe her boyfriend - or anyone - a blow by blow description of her past sexual history.

You kids need to grow up. Your hypothetical girlfriend's history and experiences have helped turn her into the person you have supossedly fallen for. Be thankful you have found someone. Is she nice to you? Is she sweet? Is she respectful of your needs and dreams and those things you hold dear? Yes? Then who cares if she blew half the football team when she was in high school?

Grow the [censored] up.

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Dom's really making this easy to respond. [img]/images/graemlins/grin.gif[/img]

She may not be 'hiding' it at all. Not volunteering info isn't the same as misleading. It may have just never came up. There's no reason for it to come up. It's in the past. I'm sure no guy on here goes point by point, detail by detail about their sexual history when they meet a chick. Gimme a break.

A better question for those that 'think' they'd want to know is, what would you do if this was your g/f and you found out she had that history even though she's been super cool to you all through your relationship? Just throw it away? If not, then why does it really matter?

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[bernie]

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she doesn't owe her fiance/husband an honest account of her past? ok, if she's a convicted felon is that info off-limits also? furthermore, if she has changed/grown then why should she feel the need to conceal this aspect of her "growth"?

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Please. Comparing it to a convicted felon is ridiculous. They don't 'owe' each other anything. She may not be 'concealing' it. It probably never came up.

You say you'd have no problem with it at all:
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personally i'd have no problem at all with maria's sexual history;

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Then what difference does it make?

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but he deserves to know, in order to make an informed decision as to whether he wants to MARRY her.

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If it'd make a difference to Joe, shouldn't Joe be the one asking for this information or any other information that may sway his decision? I mean, hell, if it's that important to him. This shouldn't all fall on the chick to volunteer it.

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[Lanzalot]

"Whores don't get second chances."

Identity Columbia Pictures, 2003, Dir. by James Mangold.

Still, if she hasn't acted that way in the three or so years that you've known her, maybe she's a reformed whore. I've known some women who have changed their whorin' ways so she wouldn't be the first. At any rate, you have an incredible hand to play if she gets bitchy with you.

[runner4life7]

so everyone is still looking at this completely wrong. Its not would you want to know but would a guy who has slept with 3 people and looks down highly on [censored] want to know. Not some guy in the porn industry. I give up because this is clearly hard for everyone here to see.

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so everyone is still looking at this completely wrong. Its not would you want to know but would a guy who has slept with 3 people and looks down highly on [censored] want to know. Not some guy in the porn industry. I give up because this is clearly hard for everyone here to see.

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I think the only reason a guy who only slept with 3 people would look down on it is because she's got more action than him.

Turn it around: He's met a great chick, but she's a virgin. Her friends would be turned off finding out he slept with 3 people and not a virgin himself. Funny thing is, he'd probably think it shouldn't really make a difference. Especially if she's never brought it up or asked about it.

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