Doc, you should check out this guy:
http://www.intellectualwhores.com/fo...amp;highlight=
You can find more similar depressing stories on that forum. All sharing a striking similarity to your story with this girl.
After reading this thread I got a couple of questions for Doc:
1) What exactly are going for? Your current interest is sex. You've already placed an emotional stock in her, professed your love for her, and spent three years of your life trying to get with her. So assuming that you ever have sex with her, it only makes sense that you'll become more emotionally involved and fall deeper in love with her. So is it just sex or a relationship?
2) Are you aware that this relationship is unhealthy? Does her manipulating and sexual teases frustrate and hurt you (especially the other guys she is with)? If so then why don't you stand up for yourself?
3) What the hell is going on with her boyfriends? Your relationship with this girl does not fall under the category of "just friends." If my girlfriend had some close intimate friendship like this with another guy who has been spending the past three years trying to [censored] her, I'd demand that she cut it out and distance herself from this guy (I guess most people would as well.) What do her boyfriends think of you two?
And thanks for such an entertaining thread.