[spamuell]

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I think a lot of this my point of view comes from the fact I had huge problems at school, that made my life hell and my parents were totally unaware of what was going on and as such able to give any support or assistance.

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Dave, I can see why you'd be concerned, yeah, and I'm coming at it from a different perspective as I've never really had a problem getting my parents to stay out of my interactions with my peers and to be honest, I've done some things that if they found out about (and they would have found out about them if they'd been keylogging my computer or something) then they'd have been incredibly angry/worried about me.

But I mean, you've gotta let teenagers have privacy and make mistakes. It's too idealistic to say that you should be close enough to them that they're not going to hide stuff from you, I know I love my parents tons and have hidden tons. But can't you trust your son enough to be sure that he's unlikely to do anything absolutely idiotic? So what if he is meeting girls or even drinking, who wasn't? If it gets to the stage where it becomes a serious problem, you won't need to sneak around to know about it.