[daveymck]

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I agree to a point and I think he would be pretty pissed if he knew I was looking. However as he is ramping up into full moody teenage mode and it has helped stop some situations get out of control where big arguments could have happened.

For example he acted very much out of character and went off somewhere at a strange time totally unusual and acting weird and evasive, turned out he was meeting a girl and going to her house with her friend and probably felt embarressed about telling us (mainly due to his little sisters taking the mick amonst other things). Took me two seconds to find it out and meant no grillings for him when he came home as would have happened otherwise ie where you been what doing.

Theres issues around drugs in his school and in the area where his Dad and mates live, plus you will be aware that in the UK there is a huge underage drink problem as well as high rates of pregnancy.

I make no apologies for using whatever tools available to ensure that over these next few difficult years he stays both on the rails and gets all the support and advice he needs from us (if we have to snoop a bit so be it). I am sure he will untick the save log file box on msn at some point shortly.

Edited to add

I think a lot of this my point of view comes from the fact I had huge problems at school, that made my life hell and my parents were totally unaware of what was going on and as such able to give any support or assistance. I ended up taking an overdose and being hospitalised for a week at 17, even now I still dont know if my parents know what happened or if they beleived it was gastral enteritis like the hospital said.

As such it means I would rather sneak and know what is going on, than not and be totally obvlivious and unsupporting to my kids.