Re: Will lips touch lips in the next 24 hours?
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Tappy:
What do you interpret as my current mindset?
And what do you think my mindset SHOULD be?
Keep in mind that this girl is literally my best friend, and I hers. I am the boyfriend that gets no play. 90% of people I interact with believe she is my girlfriend, including my parents who have spent several weekends with her, and many of our mutual friends. I find it hard to take a "life aint nothin but bitches an' money" approach to this girl with this kind of relationship already in place.
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If you're comfortable with only being her best friend, and never a lover, then keep doing what you're doing. Just keep in mind that you'll spend the rest of your friendship hearing about her boyfriends, how they are in bed, "I wish they were more like you," etc. One day, you may have a part in her wedding, where you get to watch as she marries someone else. Is that what you really want?
IF you want any chance whatsoever with this girl (and honestly it's less than 5% at this point), you need to stop paying so much attention to her. You need to stop looking at her like a prize to be won over, stop trying to be her therapist (it's coming, trust me), and stop looking at her as "the one." Women like a challenge, and she knows that she could have you as a lover in a second.
Start with those links I posted above, they'll lead you in the right direction. I'm not talking about being some pimp who treat women like crap either (although that will get better results than what you've tried so far). I'm talking about learning to be more assertive and confident around women, so that you become the prize to be won over.
So first of all, stop paying so much attention to her. In fact, ignore her entirely for the time being. Once you start to learn how to attract women (again, start with those links), start dating other women and let her know. Once she sees that your a confident man who attracts other women, she will start to find you more attractive (you'll have higher status in her eyes). At that point, however, you'll have met many other women, and I'm guessing she won't seem as great a catch to you at that point.
I've been in your shoes, spent 2 years as the best friend, and never slept with the girl. It tore me apart, but it also forced me to learn how to attract women, and how to be a better man.
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