Re: New to OOT. Have custody of my nephews. LONG
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Now onto BB I understand alot of what your saying and as I said earlier I opened myself to all of this by posting on a public forum but if you and I were friends sitting somewhere talking and I asked you for advice and you starting with my wife is a Fing B or anything like that I would more than likely try to knock your teeth down your throat. I know its your opinion but I think you are getting a little carried away.
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You're right, and I have apologized and do mean it. I'm sure your wife is a wonderful person in most regards, and I'm sorry this has affected her so. I know this is a tough time for everybody.
But you know what the right thing to do is, as difficult as it will be. Are you going to be happy with your wife if she makes you turn the kids over to foster care? I love my wife dearly, but I wouldn't be able to handle it if she made me turn my brother's kids over to the state, a horrific fate when family alternatives do exist.
Do what you know is best, it'll all work out somehow.
Sorry again.. I get too emotional when I see kids suffer needlessly. My brother, sister and I wouldn't be where we are today without the care of extended family when our parents both died way too young. My aunt literally kept my sister (her niece) alive during all the trauma when she was going thru horrific eating disorders as a result, and that was VERY VERY difficult for my aunt. Fortunately my uncle supported his wife, and my sister is alive today. That is what family is for. In another case my wife's aunt is raising her step-daughter's children cause the daughter is on crack. Those are even less related to her than your nephews are to you.. but SOMEONE has to take care of the kids. Those that dump the kids off with the government, when they are perfectly capable of doing the job, are just doing a HUGE injustice to the innocent children.
Good luck and do take care. You can handle all this, you are stronger than you think, and the kids need you now more than ever. You will be rewarded some day by sticking with the kids.
BB
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