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Also, when she told you she was coming down for a family reunion that weekend, you could have gone with: "Oh that sounds fun what are you doing? (she talks) Oh well if you have a second we could catch a coffee at ______? No, ok how about next week?" Doesn't sound desperate and is good because it provides boundries.

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I actually did do this; she mentioned something about being in SF to meet up with her mom in the morning and I said "oh, cool, so can you get away down to Menlo Park for lunch or something?" and she said "maybe!", but then she went on to be like oh yeah and all these other relatives are coming from halfway across the country and I said hmm yeah sounds like you prob aren't gonna be able to get away.

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She tested you with the juggling/shuffling of her "schedule" and you jumped at each opportunity to do whatever works for her. If she's any kind of player at all, she knows she's got you by the balls.

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I don't think that was a test, I think that's being in the last year of law school with 27 things going on outside of school.

Also, def not a player. At one point she was talking about what a nerd she is or something, and I said:
"my friend sent me this awesome comic yesterday...it was something like one guy saying 'yeah I want to find a cool nerdy chick that I can go have adventures with' and the other guy saying 'or you can die alone like everyone else that's ever said that.'"
her: "well what about me?"
me: "well, being a lawyer is much more socially acceptable than a computer nerd so I think you still have a lot to prove."
her: "what makes someone a nerd anyway? by what definition do you think i'm not a nerd?"
me: "well, let's use urbandictionary.com aka the ultimate judge of such things to find out!"
[60 seconds later and after rejecting definition #1 because "one whose iq is greater than his weight" is way too easy of a cop-out for girls]
me: "'an individual persecuted for his superior skills or intellect, most often by people who fear and envy him.' I dunno, I don't really think you can argue you've been persecuted."
her: "wtf, I'm persecuted every time I go to a bar! guys don't talk to me!"
me: "lol, i'm fairly sure persecution is an active thing, whereas guys aren't necessarily actively avoiding you, that's a passive action."
her: "no, they're actively not talking to me! that's clearly persecution!"

And yeah I definitely wish this wasn't 2 weeks away. tbh I'm more worried about not liking her before our date rather than liking her too much, as I've had serious cases of only-enjoying-the-chase before and bailing when I get the feeling the girl was into me, and since it feels like I get along with this girl really well and we click I'd hate for that to happen here.

Also, [censored] driving 100 miles for a quick first date, wtf? The medium-distance involved here is obviously going to change the scope of things a fair amount.