Re: Optimal number of friends
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quids, I might be wrong, but you strike me as the high end. Can you provide a number for reference?
A big reason for this is that I feel like I enjoy being alone much more than most people and I'm trying to verify.
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I grew up w/ 5 really good friends, we are all within about the same age range, and have hung out since I was old enough to hang out in our neighborhood. One of them I hang out with daily, one is away at law school, one is married (so I dont see him much), one is in the navy, and one is super busy at some investment firm, we all email/text probably on a weekly basis, I consider these guys my best friends as any one of us would take a bullet for eachother. I also have 2 best friends that I met at my first job about 10 years ago that I hang out on w/ pretty much everyday (some of my original friends also worked with us). So basically I have about 7 very very good friends that Id go out of my way for in any situation and vice versa (need a place to stay for a month? no problem, need to jump a guy thats messing with your gf? great, Im in...need help moving? what time?), and see 3 or them on a daily basis, I wouldnt consider these guys just "friends" though, they are like family. And then basically us 7 guys have made friends over the years, that we have brought into the "group", so I have about 15 to 20 guys that, while I wouldnt necessarily take a bullet for, or let them take advantage of me, I consider them friends, and probably see once a week. Than I also have a group of guys that I party/drink/hit the strip clubs up with, we have a good time, but its very superficial, nice guys, but no loyalty.
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Sure, I've got like 8 people like that too, but we're not in regular contact. I think shared history is different. I'm talking about time in your life and a willingness to devote that time specific to a group of people constantly, if that makes sense.
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