[The Don]

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My wife on the other hand, still says she loves me and cares about me and is dealing with a tremendous amount of guilt.

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If you want her back as well, I would suggest that the two of you get into counseling now. There are plenty of marriages that have worked through infidelity and worse.

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It's over as of now. If he acts needy like you suggest then it is most definitely over. If he goes out, improves himself, and makes her a little jealous he might have a chance.