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Are you taking any accountability for this? Surely you can't think that you are not at fault in some way here. I'm not condoning your wife's actions but what about the things you could have done differently?

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QFT.

No one is excusing her behavior, but if that is all that you focus on you are going to get nowhere.

Too many people focus on the infidelity part and don't look beyond that to see what the root issues are that caused it to happen. There is a lot more beneath the surface going on than just her going off trying to get some strange dick.

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Maybe, but that's her problem, not his. Nailing your boss for 2 years is kind of suspect to begin with. Doing it as a married person is 100 times worse obviously.

Brooding over why this happened is a waste of time. Life is too short for that crap. Cut your losses and move on.

Go out and get laid. Don't sit at home, sulk, and try to figure out what you did wrong.

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agreed. However, my original intention for starting this thread is to wake people up to the reality that infidelity is a serious problem. It destroys many lives including the children of the involved families. What are my 3 yr olds going to think one day when they come into my wife's bed and there is a new guy with my wife? 10 yrs down the road, when they ask my wife or myself why we split up, what are we going to say? If they find out the truth, when they get into their own marriages, will they be more likely to think affairs are ok? My kids are going to be moving in with 3 other kids who are 10 years older than them....it is a trainwreck waiting to happen.