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Too many people focus on the infidelity part and don't look beyond that to see what the root issues are that caused it to happen. There is a lot more beneath the surface going on than just her going off trying to get some strange dick.

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Great point. It's easy to call her a "cheating whore" but why is she cheating?

I posted this in a different forum but it's worth referencing here: a friend of mine recently discovered his wife was getting boned by the tennis pro of the country club they belonged to. Probably in their bed and maybe with the young kids around. She got an STD too, I believe.

Then I had lunch with a mutual friend of ours who also recently got divorced and figured he would be sympathetic. He wasn't. He said the reasons she cited for the infidelity - emotional detachment, excessive drinking - were probably rooted in truth. And I know the guy and he IS in his own little shell and he DOES drink a lot, particularly in binges.

It's easy to look at the outcome without considering the cause. I now realize that my friend deserves his share of the blame for what happened. I'm not saying slim is a crappy husband but maybe he could improve in some way that will keep the next one from straying.