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How damaging is it for someone to have an affair? Does this change if there are children? Is it automatically divorce if that happens? What would be any mitigating circumstances?


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Auto-divorce for me. There isn't a big enough boot to fit on my foot that puts her out to the curb.

If you're both healthy and know each other are alive, there aren't any mitigating circumstances.

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I am thinking of saying that we each get one chance, and after that it's instant split. Is this good?

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I hear that's always a great foundation to build on.

She'll probably wonder who you have in mind.

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I know that wanting to have an affair is a very human thing, and is natural. We have to resist the temptation, but it can be hard for some people. Any advice?

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It's human to desire it. It's immature to act on it. If someone can't handle that, they shouldn't be getting married.

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I am sure that I can bring this up with her without causing problems, our relationship is good.

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I'd love to hear the follow-up on this conversation.

At least you have a 'few years' to get your head on str8 and understand what being married and making a committment to someone really means.

There's a reason 60+% marriages fail.

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