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meh, keep treating the women in your life like barefooted housewives, Im doing just fine.

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Riiight. When did you stop beating your girlfriend?

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talk about class.


I dont get this mentality really. You dont respect women enough to maybe realize that they make their own choices, and that you need to "take care of them" after a divorce because they are too frail and stupid to make a go of it alone..and Im the misogynist? Once a vow is broken, I dont feel it is my responsibility to take care of anyone but blood. A divorce is going to be no fault of my own, when I love a girl (and it has happened once btw), Im a sucker and will do anything for her to make it last, Im naive this way, but if god forbid she just wakes up not happy and wants to leave me, and counseling etc doesnt work, than I wash my hands.

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I think the issue people have with your approach is mentality is that it holds up making money as the only valid choice. Or rather, if you want money in life then you need to make the choices that allow you to make it.

You're probably thinking, "yeah well duh"

But basically I don't think a lot of people agree with that. There are many aspects to life, as you well know, and when people get married they generally intend to build a life together. Depending on what stage they're in, they both might choose to earn money, but at some point they'll choose to focus on other aspects (aka children), and it's natural for one of the people to assume more responsibility for earning money. Of course they don't have to, and they won't make as much money as if they were both working, but they make the conscious decision to sacrifice some of their earning power for the benefit of building a family.

It's unfair for a woman to get stuck with nothing for the same reason it's bs when a man gets to see his children every other weekend. He may not be around as much as the woman, but he played a hugely important role in the life they shared.