[oddjob]

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I think what I'm trying to say is that in theory, telling him sounds like a great idea and the obvious right thing to do. In reality, it never works out the way it should, friendships are broken, unfair judgments are made, and resentment sets in. I have never once gotten involved in a situation like this that I later wished I had just stayed out of.

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what's worse is not telling, and him finding out you knew. this is happening within a circle of my friends.

friend's wife leaves him. ex is screwing buddy. a bunch of others knew (i did not, and if i did, i would have told him, a bunch knew cause 3 of them live with him) he doesnt' find out for a month.

he cannot trust any of those guys. he's a great guy, and they lost his friendship. he's done so much for a number of them. screw that. not one of the had the balls to tell him. that's messed up.

it's not even so much that they were screwing. it was that everyone knew for a month or so, and not one of them told him.