Re: Do you tell ?
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Before I married my first wife, apparently all of my really close friends thought she was a colossal bitch and treated me terribly. I had some misgivings but was pretty much blind to the situation. Oh how I wish one of my friends would have risked me getting mad at him so he could give me an outside perspective.
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That's the thing. 99% of the time, people are going to do whatever they want to do. I've had numerous heart-to-hearts with friends about how I hate their significant other and think they're making a huge mistake. Not once has it ever made a difference other than making things really awkward or ending the friendship. I was in a horrible relationship and turned a deaf and infuriated ear to my friends were just trying to help.
If it was some random guy who banged the girl, it would be a different scenario, and I would recommend telling him. But it's between two friends and a girl that has been passed between them publicly once already. If OP truly wants to remain friends with both, then getting involved is only going to be dragging himself and more drama into an already dramatic situation.
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Certainly there is danger in telling a close friend that the person they are currently sleeping with is a bitch/douche/azzhole/whatever. Certainly you can damage or destroy a friendship by trying to save this person some real heartache down the line.
But isn't that what true friendship is supposed to be? Wouldn't you be willing to give up your friendship with a close friend if you could save them from terrible heartache?
The issue is bigger than just whether it harms your friendship.
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