Re: I have no social skills, am incredibly boring, and want to end it
Well, my problem is frequently the opposite.
I go through my introverted or don't-really-give-a-crap-about-anyone-here phases.
But mostly I'm pretty well known for being stupidly over-talkative. Voted 'most ralkative' of my high-school class. Worked previously in radio where all I did was talk, talk, talk. etc etc.
So I'll shed my somewhat opposite perspective on it.
1. The fact that I talk (I've cut it down somewhat though) more than other people does not make me any more interesting at all.
I know plenty of introverts who are pretty damned interesting IF you can get them to open-up a bit.
But I don't care if I'm not as smart as others around me and what I have to say might not really be that interesting in the grand scheme of things. I make observations anyway.
2. I get going the most when I'm more caffeinated.
I'll make stupid, random observations about the stupidest things. Look at the world like a little kid. It's fun.
Ask questions, make observations, whatever.
In general, activate your mind somewhat so that your conversational stuff doesn't just revolve around what is on TV.
But even then, whatever is on the TV at the bar can still be your spark if you want it to be and it doesn't have to be a bad thing.
Commercials are getting weirder and weirder these days. Discuss.
This song sucks...why is this idiot singing like this?
or this song is awesome...these guys officially kick-ass.
Discuss.
Hobbies are nice too. But I don't think you need a ton of hobbies to develop opinions on some things or be able to have a conversation.
Even just making eye-contact and being somewhat friendly/smiley can get people to open-up and when other people open-up then that can get contagious on you as well.
I think there's some potential for OP to make more friends in a somewhat social-setting like law school.
There will be a ton of work involved too obviously but you'll be working some in group settings I would think.
Instead of complaining about always being tired or about how boring this stuff is I think purposefully being a more positive person about "we can do this. It kind of sucks right now to be studying and reading 20 hours a day but I feel like I can make it" can rub off positively on other people as well.
I tend to complain a bit more than other people I think and am really concious of that so that's why I guess I'm go much into recommending positivity.
Good luck. Hope some of this gave you some kinds of ideas.
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