[J.A.K.]

The problem with some of this, IMHO, is that there is something debilitating about engaging in hobbies for reasons other than genuine interest, and in superficially dabbling in certain topics for the sole purpose of generating conversation.

The problem with my problem, IMHO, is that these things are the catalysts for the more meaningful interactions. Much of life is in the details and there is a lot of subtle value in small talk and simple interaction. So, if it doesn't come naturally, any effort to instigate it would be beneficial. I think there is a general malaise that we are becoming a nation of misanthropes, and this causes some people to shut down socially.

OP, I think a lot of people can sympathize. I can. I have been blessed with a close group of friends that have remained in touch from high-school through college. We engage in tons of activities, get togethers etc. and there are still moments where I feel somewhat disconnected.

Anyhoo, GL.