[bkholdem]

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I'm not saying that you can't get women without money, but that having it helps a lot. People like signalling it and people like looking for the signals. It does a lot of your work of standing out from the crowd and giving a good impression for you, rightly or wrongly. Of course, the door is still always open for you to blow it.

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It's an exibition of status.

So isn't strolling into a bar like you own the place all alone and interacting with 1/2 of the people there, getting groups of girls interested in you, etc. You can really see the way they are *impressed* when your answer to their question: "How do you know those girls over there?" is "I just met them tonight." You get lots of status from the women in the bar if you can show up alone (or with a friend or 2) and mix with the groups of girls, the groups that have guys and girls in them, etc (you mostly wannna bypass the groups that are just guys) all the way around the bar, laughing and joking with strangers. Making others have a FUN time. If women see that you can bring fun and excitement to 4-5 different groups of girls in a bar (while alsmost all the rest of the dude's make their big attempt at one chick or 2 and it's 'can I buy you a drink' or 'do you wanna dance' lol) it gives you status. They see you as confident and above the rest of the guys there. You go around and meet 20 or more different people in one night. Come back to that same place 1x/month or so for 6 months and you might be friendly with 1/2 the people there. And now you meet their friends they are with this time who they were not with the last time, etc.

A lot of it is a numbers game. And it is not a negative to the checks there (at least it doesn't have to be) that you are there to meet interesting and fun women. Your a single man, confident, going ot meet women with the pair between your legs and a smile. They are all used to the lamo's who offer to buy them a drink, ask for their number, and ask them to dance (after drinking 6 beers lol). That's another thing, when they ask what your drinking the confident reply is "Cranberry juice" or something non alcoholic and they realize this confident guy who is going around and approaching strangers and making converstation with them and looking to meet interesting and fun people is not even drinking alcohol. YOu stand out.

Do that in an old tee shirt, cutoffs, and sandles and you will stand out (assming the place is not jam packed, the girls have to notice you are moving and mingling).

Walk in with some interesting outfit, flashy clothes, (or simply well dressed, manicure, etc) and if you move around confidently the girls will notice. Then they will notice if you side up to the bar with a drink or if you move from one group to the next. By mixing with a couple tables with boyfriends and girlfriends out for the night and joking with them and smiling with them, and mixing wiht several sets of chicks....all the girls paying attention are going to notice. And they are going to know your not the lamo who gets drunk and asks for a couple numbers.