[Blarg]

I'd concur that sex isn't about thinking(unless you're thinking about things like birth control that is), and girls don't like it put in that realm -- nobody does really. That sucks the magic out of it and drags it toward the plodding everyday stuff of living, like doing your taxes or folding laundry. Sex is supposed to be exciting and different, maybe break a few rules, and spontaneity really helps a lot there. Few of even the most level-headed women don't like the idea of being swept off their feet.

Perhaps you're on your way and maybe have wised up and won't profit by any more ideas or advice from anybody else at this point. If so, good for you, and grats on finally having the sack to get this far.

But I wonder -- did you finally get to the face sucking by asking her if you could kiss her before planting one on her? And if so or if not, do you plan to approach sex by the same slow, excruciating, contractual, planned degrees that you did smooching?

I'm wondering if the next step is going to be an agonizingly stiff replay of the first.