[MychCumstien]

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I'm begining to realize this may be the reason for many divorces. (both ppl are attracted to each other, but don't realize they have nothing in common, have drastically different personalities, etc.) Am I too far off?

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Amen brother. I divorced several years back, when my ex and I finally realized we had absolutely nothing in common. We met in college and had drinking, partying, and physical attraction in common; but at the end of the day, that was about it. It's sad that it took us a couple of years to figure that out, but hey what can you do?

Regarding your philosophy, I whole heartedly agree with you, i.e. treat others the way you'd want to be treated. I'm not sure your two stories really relate though.

The first girl, the girl you've known all your life; I think you should give her a call. Apologize and take her out for a cup of coffee. Just as friends obviously, and set the record straight. Apologize for hurting her feelings and all that. You'll feel much better, and I'm sure so will she. Heck, you've known her almost your entire life. It's a shame to ruin friendships like that.

Regarding the 2nd girl, I'd say just get over it. I know that's sometimes easier said than done; but it's not like you had been dating the girl and she dumped you. There were never any mutual feelings there, so I don't see the hangup.

Best advice: Nothing gets you over the last one like the next one [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

Seriously though, stop pining for this girl, and go out and meet a nice girl.

I can almost relate to you though. Several years back (not too long after my divorce) I dated a girl for about 7 months. I thought she WAS my dream girl. She was hot; she kind of had this rene rouso thing about her. A very close resemblence actually. We couldn't keep our hands off each other, and we seemingly had a lot in common (at the time). At the time, I felt I wanted to marry this girl.

Well, then the sky came crashing down, lol, because I found out she had a boyfriend, lol,(And that I wasn't it). She had a longtime boyfriend of several years, who had moved away right before we met. Well, to make a long story short; she told me about it after 7 months, ditched me, and moved across the country to move in with him, lol. Now tell me that that's not a mind F**K! lol.

Well, it turned out for the best actually, as in hindsight (which is always 20-20) her and I really didn't have that much in common after all. And a couple years ago, I did wind up meeting the girl of my dreams, and am now happily married [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]... again, lol [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

Anyway, I guess my point is this: get past this girl. It's all in your mind, and it doesn't sound like she's all that anyway. Don't let life pass you by, pining for this chick that isn't even worth it. Go out, and find the girl you're supposed to be with. You might just surprise yourself! GL [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]