http://thefitcast.com/?p=180 - interview with figure competitor jen heath
http://thefitcast.com/?p=45 - interview with cassandra foresythe, i think its gets talked about here as well
perhaps explain to her that nutrition will be the determining factor in what effect your weight training has, it will allow her to feel in control of her results...
you should also check out musclewithattitude.com - its t-nation for women...