[Clarkmeister]

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No though tonight I was in her room for quite a while (also see the 24 thread) and the temptation to just attempt to kiss her was very strong. alas, I lack cajones

(Plus the fact that we have TALKED about this, and she has made clear that she is *thinking*, means that I am not sure if it would be appropriate for me to make a move at this point...that'd be kind of pushing the issue which she has requested time on)

edit: any suggestion for a way to make a move which would both be subtle enough to be appropriate given the fact that she has told me she wants time, but at the same time making my own thoughts on the issue pretty clear, would be good. if there is such a way, anyway. most suggestions will probably involve something that wouldn't be appropriate given the current state of our friendship and this whole issue.


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because I've been professing my undying love while intoxicated to her for over a year now, and she only just recently began to consider the possibility of it being reciprocated, though we have been extremely close friends the whole time (Think Biggie lyrics: "closer than the average girls supposed to be...people swore we was fckin' but we was just cool" ...describes this relationship perfectly)

she is well aware of MY intentions/feelings as i have made plenty of moves. she put the ball in her own court with our last serious discussion, by asking for time.


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I guess I oughta sack up and just try it. Unfortunately, 2nd semester thermo quiz weds, 2 exams before noon on thursday, and a gi-friggin-normous thermo assignment due on friday means that tonight was really my last chance till Friday. And there is a third party that could set me a step back in the progress that may have been made this evening, simply by reminding her that she already has the opportunity for whatever physical play she wants without the silly strings attached [though this has not been a factor for over 6 months, he has recently re-established contact with her, and she is not being entirely open about what exactly is going to go on with this. so far, nothing has happened.].

Just gotta hope they don't make any plans between now and friday night, i guess.



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I just realized another complication in the matter (assuming 3rd party guy is not a problem. I am going to pretend he doesn't exist: she did not go to his house with his parents this weekend and two weekends ago, she does not invite him over to watch jeopardy/wheel of fortune / start watching 24 out of the blue with him etc, etc. I win, regardless of how much physical contact he has made with her.)

this last friday night, before drinking, we made a rule that we actually enforced at one point when the conversation turned down a possibly dangerous road, that we were not going to discuss "important things" while intoxicated.

if/when we hang out friday night (i'm taking it for granted, i would like to think this will not depend on 3rd party guy, again, there has been nothing in terms of this guy for 6 months and only in the last 3 days has his re-appearance been made known to me, so i have NO idea if she is going to even see this guy ever again...i know she was talking to him on AIM today, but do not know nor do i want to know details) there will be alcohol involved.

"discussing things" and moving in to try to kiss her are not really distinguishable in this context right? I don't want to break our established code because i feel like forcing the decision to be made sooner than she is ready.

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Good god man - take a look at yourself! You're a wreck. You owe it to yourself to get this over with and take your best shot.