Re: OOT relationship experts-- advice needed. TL/DR
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he feels ready to find someone else and is for the first time actually seeking a relationship.
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I can never understand this thinking. What does this mean, actually seeking a relationship? How can this really work? Actually seeking somebody to bonk, well this I can understand. You're criteria is clear in this regard.
A relationship is usually with somebody special. They are special enough that they warrent the effort and risk of forming a relationship. You can't just go out and find this type of person. They come into your life at unexpected moments. What you can do is to work on yourself so that you have something to offer that special person when they pop up and that you're able to recognise them as well.
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The best translation I can give you is previously I didn't really care that much whether or not I was in one. Now, I'd prefer to be in one.
Btw, I have received this same advice from several others and am strongly considering it.
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