Choose Strength....not Weakness...
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I've been thinking about pre-nups recently (on account of the g/f waffling on about all her friends being married etc etc etc...sigh).
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Trust your instincts....
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and I can't find much through Google.
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Finding info on the internet is a wonderful thing. But if you can't find it, then take a crow-bar to your wallet and buy an hour with a lawyer....
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Then there is the question of approaching the subject...how to do this without sounding like an arse or getting a slap?
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You are approaching this from a position of weakness....not strength. Most GF don't like being asked to sign a pre-nup. All her hen-friends will take her side. Your play is easy BE-A-MAN and stick to your principles. Having the principle to protect your next-egg is a GOOD THING. The best defense is a good offense. If she starts attacking you, then turn it around on her and ACCUSE HER. Say "if you truly loved me for myself then you would not feel threatened by this". Put her on the defense. If she fears she will lose you, she will SIGN a pre-nup. If she hows doubts, she can use this as an excuse to 'take a stand'. If she takes a stand then do some soul searching. If she truly feared losing you, she would crumple like a cheap suit!
My cousin signed a pre-nup with her wealthy husband (California). They have been married 10+ years and have two kids. Since they have been married for longer than 7 years and have kids the terms of the pre-nup have been satisfied and it is no longer relevant... It was no problem for her.... But she is a VERY-VERY-COOL woman.... Not knowing your woman I can't speculate how she will react...
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