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Blarg, I don't judge you or the OP if they think abortion is ok. I obviously don't agree with you. But I also haven't directly attacked either of you for it.

Nor am I naive enough to think I can change your minds. But I have nothing to lose by at least voicing my opinion.

You're trying way too hard to be combatitive with me.

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Only because I think you were being unfairly combative to the OP and negating any possible chance that he may have morality of his own and be a good person. This seems founded on the basis of his ideas perhaps being different than yours -- or the mere possibility that they are. This strikes me as of the essence of unfairness. And, in the context of both a forum in general and in particular a thread wherein the OP is confessing his guts out and asking for feedback, it strikes me as unnecessarily combative. OP is faced with hard questions, and attacking him when he's asking for help, or implying he's some sort of dirtbag or whatever, seems wrong. And saying he only has one option, when the truth is he has several, seems to be less than on the level.

Frankly, I don't think anyone should make someone else unduly lock down his clear thinking on such important subjects by directing condemnation at him or telling him he's trapped into only one way of thinking or being -- especially when he's not. The truth is, he just has options that some like better than others. There really is probably a better, more honest way to do things than jumping all over the OP.

I don't see why it is so acceptable or loving or whatever to pile on the hate on one set of choices. Especially since it is not true that only rosy things happen if one path is chosen and only every sort of awfulness imaginable occurs if the other path is taken. Piling on hate isn't that cool in the first place, but at least painstaking care should be taken to make sure there isn't a hair out of place with regard to honesty and full consideration of the circumstances if one does. Instead, we are getting purposely tilted, black and white pictures that just aren't honest at all, and therefore seem to me patently far less than caring.