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I think until you stop asking what your prospects are and instead ask what the child's will be, and are willing to make them your first priority and order your life accordingly, you have no business parenting. Kids are not toys, rewards, social validation, or ways to hold failing relationships together. People with childish mentalities should not be having children themselves.

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Agree 100%, but it's too late for that kind of planning in this case; I'm sure the OP agrees with you. How do you handle the current situation?

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Admitting one's shortcomings in this regard should not be grounds for scorn. It's actually a sign that the things that should be considered and very often aren't considered are actually coming into play. That kind of honest self-assessment is always valuable, rarer than it should be, and especially appropriate given the lifelong gravity of the decisions to be made when it comes to childbirth.

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I don't think the OP was admitting his shortcomings as much as he was complaining about how his life was going to be ruined by his girlfriend's decision to bear their baby as if it was all her doing. I think there's room for a little scorn in there if some want to take advantage of the opportunity. Maybe only as much scorn as the OP showed toward his girlfriend. I agree with the rest of your comment.

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No time to respond in detail right now as I am watching a zombie movie, but you are selectively characterizing the OP unfairly. The OP's admitting of his own likely shortcomings is what it is, regardless of other things he may say or feel or do, or how you might feel about any of it. You can't selectively read like that and then hold someone else accountable for your reading. Naughty naughty!