Thread: Pregnant GF
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Old 04-13-2007, 06:24 PM
James Boston James Boston is offline
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Default Re: Pregnant GF

OP,

I have no idea what I'd do in your situation. I'm not trying to sound judgemental, or tell you what your future with this girl should entail. However, when you say things like this:

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"Manning up" might work for some factory worker who has no ambition in life, and is just going to eventually have kids anyway.

It is a much different story for me - no stable job, risky income, young, inexperienced, and needs to stay emotionally stable to even have a chance at making enough money to support 3 people.

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...you sound ignorant and selfish. If you have a child, the reasons you've cited for not being ready are not excuses, they're obstacles. Other people's lives are now affected by yours. You may not have wanted that, but it's now a harsh reality. You have to deal with the reasons you're not ready instead of convincing yourself that they're a valid excuse for being a bad father. Not having a stable job, and risky income is something you have to give up. Sorry. Being scared is something you have to get over. Family is the only thing you can count on when it's all said and done. This kid will be counting on you. If you set some assanine parameters on what you'll be available to him/her for, that's being a bad father.
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