Re: Pregnant GF
I read a lot of OOT but rarely post here...I think I have some perspective that I didn't notice when reading the thread. This is going to be disorganized and I appologise in advance (there are about 30 posts that I'd like to respomd to and this is the best way for me to go).
I just turned 53 and never was lucky enough to have a child. I can't describe how sad that makes me. When I was about 22 my brand new bride thought she was pregnant and it scared the hell out of me but I decided to make the best of it. I remember having the same selfish concerns that the OP expressed. She miscarried and for a while I was relieved. I still feel guilty for feeling that way because I never got another chance.
OP, please consider what you'll be missing if you try to convince your girlfriend to end the pregnancy. You'll certainly lose her and you may cost her any future chance to have a family. Didn't you mention that she'll be a great mom? Let her have a shot. You may end up being a great dad, too.
Two weeks ago you would have married her...now you want to hit the bricks. I think it's a mistake. You'll be able to do everything in your life that you would've without a family, and it may even be more fun. You can't escape the financial aspect of this, so start figuring out a way to enjoy it as much as possible. You may be surprised. It really isn't a matter of "being a man about it," you're squarely in the situation and will have to deal with it while hurting as few people as possible. Be responsible. And be happy that your parents didn't decide to abort you to escape the stress of raising a child.
I wish you all the best.
To the others who are making jokes: not everything is worth a joke. To the others who think that an abortion would be the best for everyone concerned: I think you're wrong...not just where the baby is concerned; I think that everybody suffers. I'm sorry because I know how "preachy" this all sounds.
I know. tl;dr.
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