Re: Pregnant GF
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Glad you asked. Here goes: you have definitely decided what you want to do. In fact, you decided before you were even faced with the actual event. You came here with your post for support of that decision and possibly some advice about how to convince your GF that you are right.
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I'm not exactly defending OP here, but a lot of what you said is BS. OP never indicated he came to OOT for support or approval.
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Of course he didn't say that. He asked for opinions/advice and I gave mine--perhaps I should have labeled it as such. Why do you think he came here with this? He's looking for an easy exit (again, MHO). If you found yourself in a critical life-choice situation, would you go to OOT for advice--and then follow it? But to OP's credit, he did seek assistance somewhere, and it may have provided him with some ideas for options that he had not yet considered. But, IMHO he had already decided that he was never going to accept more than the minimal, required amount of responsibility.
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IMHO at this point, this is 95% your GF's decision as she is the one who will have to live with the consequences of the decision, whatever it is. (But, as you said, that is subject for a different thread.) I think her family realizes this even if she does not.
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He has to live with the consequences just as much as the girl.
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Hardly. If they decide to abort, the girl will be the one to endure whatever consequences (feelings of guilt, distancing from relatives, etc) there are from that decision 1000X more than the OP.
If they decide to have the child, the girl will be affected infinitely more than OP as she will be the one raising it and providing the bulk of support (financial, emotional, shelter, day-to-day care, etc) even if the OP decides to kick in some child support. I can easily foresee the OP rationalizing that he shouldn't have to pay child support since the GF broke her promise to have an abortion if she became pregnant (again, IMHO). Even if the OP pays child support, I can assure you it won't cover half the cost of rasing the child. I'm assuming the OP will bail if no abortion is forthcoming. Even if he stays, this situation has likely put a rift in their relationship that will never be healed.
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