Re: Pregnant GF
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You don't have a choice though. You're going to have a kid.
You can either be a douchebag & raise a douchebag, or you can un-[censored] yourself and raise a proper human being. And maybe even be one yourself.
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Not sure if you've been following the whole thread...I've calmed down a bit since the OP (getting my thoughts out has been therapeutic - so thanks to all who have contributed)
I think more of my fear came from the fact that I thought I was being unwillingly committed to stay with the GF, and in turn in this town (i doubt she'll ever leave her family once this happens). As my thoughts cleared more, I realized I can still care for the child and improve my own life simultaneously... Though my relationship with the child will likely be long-distance...
The situation is looking like much less of a "stay or leave" scenario, so I've made progress.
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Its definitely not an easy topic to discuss, but I think you need to let your GF know the score on this count. Its ultimately her choice about the baby, but she should know that having the kid doesnt necessarily mean marrying you and settling down with you in this town.
For sure, if she has the kid you have a responsibility to be a good father. But you don't necessarily have a responsibility to marry her or stay in this town. And when she makes the decision to have the kid, it should be knowing that there is a reasonable chance she will be raising a kid with separated parents, for all that entails both for her and for the kid.
What do you think the chance is that she screwed with the birth control intentionally? Honestly, if she was taking the pill in the right way it is really hard to get knocked up.
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