[Tito]

I have a tendency to be brutally honest to everyone. Now it's your turn.

First off, it's YOUR baby whether you like it or not. You [censored] her, you got her pregnant, you suffer the consequences. Secondly, your views are pretty screwed up as far as the fetus not being a baby, but an "opportunity". The fetus IS a baby, just not a fully developed one. However, it is still a living organism.

You really should rethink your situation and make a decision that would be best for both of you involving the child. It is ultimately up to your GF whether you keep the baby or not. Adoption isn't a bad choice if you are both not ready to be parents. It's probably actually your best choice. But to say that the rest of your life is ruined is a pathetic excuse and IMO you're a self-centered, piece of [censored] for thinking this way.

I've never been through the same situation as you, but I think I can relate to how you're feeling. I am not married but will be very soon. My GF was married before and has a little girl. I am white, my GF is Filipino, and her child is half black. I grew up in a hick town and my parents have the same take on interracial relationships as probably most of this forum's parents do. I don't feel the same way they do, but it is a little tough knowing what they are thinking about the decisions that I am making. I'm getting way off topic here. My point is that I love my GF and plan on marrying her someday. I knew that she had a child when we started dating, and I found out later that the child came from two ethnic backgrounds that were very different from my own. I had plans and dreams for my own life and felt a little cheated out of those dreams because I love my GF but she screwed up her life and sometimes I feel like I'm paying the consequences by staying with her. But I love her. And if my life is what I have to sacrifice to make her happy and give her and her child the life that they deserve, then that's what I'll do. That doesn't mean that I don't wish things were different, it just means that I'm not going to puss out and run just because certain aspects of my life do not match the way I had planned it. If everyone, everyday, could just take the time to think of a way that they could make someone else happy and stop being so selfish, the world would be a MUCH better place.

If you decide to have this baby and continue to support your GF in whatever she chooses, even if that means your life takes a drastic turn, then I commend you and hold a DEEP amount of respect for you. You are truly a man.
But if you don't, and you cut and run, you are worthless and you're a pussy and I hope your balls fall off. And I guarantee you the day will come when you wish you had made the right decision. You are blessed to have the ability to bring a new life into this world, and one that carries your name. Embrace it, care for it, and show it all the love you have in you. You won't regret it. Best to you and your GF.

EDIT: Response to OP, not kyleb