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This is the 84th time I've posted it... You need to stop dwelling on the inside?.. it's JUST AN OPENER. here's how every conversation goes.


1. Inside?

1a. what??/??

2. yeah, inside. what are you up to?

2a. oh not much, just sitting here at work. how about you?

3. i'm just hanging out. so what do you do around here for fun?

3a. well on the weekends i go out to some of the clubs, or some parties with friends... not much hehehehe.

4. oh cool, reason i ask is that i just moved up to town a couple weeks ago. i need to find my way around.

4a. oh, that's cool. why did you move up here?

5. blah blah blah...
do you want to get a drink sometime?

or

do you have AIM or MSN?




i recommend the drink line a lot more though. a lot of times you'll end up talking to these chicks for a couple nights on messenger and it will be a total waste of your time.

i have had MANY "Insides? that have gone exactly like above.

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I've been thinking about the whole inside thing BEP and I think the reason it works for you and not some others is that it fits you and your comfortable making the transition to a real conversation. Whereas for other's its forced and comes across forced.

For me I started having much more success when I dropped "inside?" and just went with whatever came to mind from reading their profiles. not because "inside?" can't work but because it just wasn't me.

I think this might be something the other's to consider as well.