[katyseagull]

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Some roles are biologically more fitting for one sex than another, but someone caring as much for their partner as their partner cares for them is possible. Pretty lucky, maybe.

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I totally agree that both partners should care about the feelings and welfare of the other. I think in this case you are very smart to point out that her actions, whether she means them to or not, reflect a lack of consideration and concern for her husband's efforts and his hopes and dreams for a secure future. On the other hand, as someone early on in this thread pointed out, he was sort of counting on her to be pulling in loads of cash which reflects a bit of greediness on his part doesn't it?


Btw, your posts in this thread have come very close to expressing the feelings of my friend, the husband. He would totally agree with you on so many points. However, he would probably take exception to your stance that her behavior is not loving. He would explain it more as her being lazy and fearful but not manipulative. I want to say that you are exactly right though, this guy was enormously supportive towards his wife and I know that he sacrificed a lot to see her through this thing.
So in many respects you speak very eloquently about the unfairness of the situation that he finds himself in.