Re: Need your opinion... Does this wife owe him more?
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the word is that she will be making <$42,000 at her new job. However, I still feel that it's up to her and that the husband needs to just keep his mouth shut. I realize that other people disagree with this.
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What's the point of spending 3 years and $80-100k just to get a job paying $42k? I mean, she could easily make more than that doing all sorts of things that don't require an advanced degree.
She has the right to work whatever job she wants, of course...but she has demonstrated (by initially saying she would take a higher-paying job, letting him work hard and go into debt to support her through school, then changing her mind) that her husband's feelings aren't very important to her. It's up to him to decide how much that bothers him (it would bother me a lot, in the same situation).
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It would bother me too. There is often a double standard when it comes to men and women; women's feelings are allowed and even celebrated or counted as some sort of mystical insight, whereas men are not supposed to have any, or all theirs are to be directed to over-finessing every tiniest worry about their partner. Parity is often talked about as a goal, but as long as either partner is taken for granted, equality will stay a buzzword.
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