Re: Need your opinion... Does this wife owe him more?
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So I'll clarify. I don't think marriage can ever be about love and money. It's not more your wife's responsibility to pay you than it is your boss's responsibility to sleep with you (God help you if your wife is your boss).
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I'm clearly not saying she owes him money. What I am saying is that he worked while she went to school. What he did by doing so was to make an investment in the couple's financial future. It's clear he viewed it that way, and I'd guess they probably discussed it.
We're not talking about a basketweaving class at the local community college that she's taking for fun. We're talking about 2-3 years and a buttload of money (I think the average is like $80k!) and him taking care of domestic things and not seeing her while she attends class, does homework, etc. This is similar to him taking the $80k and saying he's going to invest it in something for the couple's retirement, but instead she goes on an $80k shopping spree because that's what makes her happy.
By the way, I hope I'm not coming off as overly argumentative on this. I really do see the other side of the argument and think that above all, they really need to talk about this and explain why they each feel the way do about it.
Also, I'm still of the belief that she's making a choice based mostly on fear. Katy's description of her makes me think she really lacks self confidence and is taking the easy way out. Perhaps if they talked this through and he showed his support for her and confidence in her, he could show her that she can do the tougher job. It might lead to a lot of good things for her beyond just career issues.
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