Thread: why boobs?
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Old 07-25-2004, 09:00 PM
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Let me start by saying, I noticed in another post, you aren't interestedin the question, "Should I?' bu rather, "What is it men find so attractive about breasts?"

So I'll just breifly say that one gal I know died getting implants... so I have many angry thoughts abouts how the media presents images we are judged by, and the effects thereof. Images for both sexes really. (I'm a guy... and my tastes run toward petite to tall brunettes, with a few blondes an readheads thrown in. Also have a big attraction to some asian women.)
And like you I realize that looks are part of the game. Since I'm not "Tom Sellick", "Brad Pitt", "Fill in the heart throb here" material but have lost manya potential mate to guys who were... and often wealthy to boot... i can100% relate.

But that was back in my teens, 20's and 30's. Now going into my 40's my standards are somewhat different.

But even so, I like "hot" babes as much as the next guy. In fact what attracts me visually is *exactly* the same as it was then. Except perhaps that I now look to find it in a mature woman. For example, Lisa Kudrow, or Heather Locklear now attract me because they are still nice looking but are my own age.

Truth is, I thinkmen are perpetually attracted to the physique of a healthy 18 to 232 year old. I believe at 23 the last hit of hormone changes hit a woman until menopause comes around. I've often believed that it was about the time most women's hips are completely done, and that until then, you don't know what a woman's final adukt figure is going to be. And no doubt pregnancy changes it again.

In any event, I'm in the, "I like perky" breasts group. Large breasts that roll down onto the ribs turn me oiff, personally. So my "type" tends to be Holie Marie Combs, Allysa Milano, Rose McGowan(who face I totally love too, as all these gals), Patricia Heaton (who did have implants), Lauren Graham, and when I was a kid Valeri Bertinelli, Jacyline Smith, And of couse such moderns a Paris Hilton, And on and on and on. The media has put so many babes out there. Oh yeah, and Trishelle from "The Sureal Life".

Yet you can see most have awesome faces in my short list, no "titty monsters" There (OK, I like Dolly Parton too).

Probably one of my all time faves is *Stevie Nicks", fell in love with that poster of her in the 70's where she was wearin boots and on foot was rolled in.

Guess I love a lot a babes! :-) (Never could figure out gay guys... want a hard body? Date a weightlifter babe! :-)

But back to the question.

I belive both men and women are inately attracted to breasts. It's built in. They're the first thing you look for when you're born!

I'd say a dislike of breasts is mildly abnormal or unusual. (Just my opinion).

As for many guys liking large breasts... well, when you were a new-born, mom's breasts were as big as you were!

As to why certain breast shapes are favored? Well, I suspect the intrinsic answer is buried in natural selection somewhere. As well as just visual asthetics.

There's also something to be said of just proportions that humans in general find "sexy". Can anyone deny that a Ferrari 328 GTS is "sexier" than a VW Beetle? Yet arguably the Beetle is more bulbous. in any event, we all know just by looking at them which one is "hotter" (despite the fact that someone could graft an engine into a beetle that makes it faster than the Ferrari.)

Finally there's culture and media. For example, I've read that Latin men prefer larger breasts and butts than European men. In France I belive the "rule" is "no larger than a champagne glass". And I'm sure with all the tribal variations in Africa and other such places, the "ideal woman" varies immensley.

That's probably true over time in all cultures as well. Compare Victorian Ideals to the ideal represented bt Twiggy (who was fairly flat) or the Flapper of the 20's.

Right now we're living in an age when the idealized woman is some sort of "thin but buffed" charicature that looks good to sa camera. Yet, the population is aging. A population that had heros like Arnold, for us guys... who was a steroid abuser! And of course a whole bevy of surgically enhanced ladies...who were shot at *exactly* the right camera angle, wearing *tailored* outfits, with professionally applied makeup and lightin.

See, the problem both sexes arew fighting is the media.

Sure we could all look great if we all had timwe and money for personal trainers, chefs, etc. but most of us are workers trapped in unatural work/sleep patterns etc. So, unless you arew genetically gifted, ypu're just not going to measure up.

Go look in ant grocery store, or even a gym. How many Hollywood Quality super-photogenic types do you see?

So, to my way of thinking, modern life is engineered wrong, as it really seems to turn most of us into toads.

This is especially apparent to me as a 40 something as I now realize just how beautiful the gals I grew up with were when they were your age... but I didn't notice....because at that age I was focused on the *one* prettiest cheerleader or whatever.

You have to realize that at your age, men er ah, boys really have no sense about girls at all. There's either this one girl he just has to have...or he's out to do as many as he can. OK, there's a few decent guys out there... but it's unusual.

Takes'em a long time to wake up too.

They may actually be quite intelligent too. I'm sure many in that bracket have high IQ's... higher than mine, I'm sure. But it takes some living to appreciate perspective and EQ as some have billed it.

Anyways, I can't say if implants are right or wrong for you. Knowing noting of you in reality, I'll give you my default opinion as it relates to healthy but small breasted women.

I agree our culture is looks obsessed and understand why you would want to. But having lost someone to it, I have a low opinion of a culture that would make a woman feel it's neccesary.
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