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Thanks - more wise advice. In the time I've known her there've been two other girls I've known who I've been able to imagine being in a relationship with, who were equally attractive as her in their own ways - an Italian/Spanish girl who worked in fashion, and a South African girl who's an artist / runs an art dealership. Slept with one. Had some dates but failed to make a move on and so lost the other. I have to get physical confidence - I don't get girls basically because I never make a move on them, so nothing happens. But both these girls were great in showing me the huge variety of women out there, and you can date and be happy with all kinds of them, not just one type or specific girl.

One day I might even believe that! I do know it's true, just haven't internalised it yet.

Telling myself I can only be happy if I'm in a relationship with this girl who doesn't want me is a way of ensuring my continued unhappiness. I have to get out of this. I have to let myself be happy.



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Learn to get women. Surely you know about the so-called seduction movement with all the books and crap out. Once you get better with women, you'll find that you don't want her as much, or at the very least you are okay without her. Get yourself right, then worry about the girl, basically. If, after you get good with women, and do the standard advice of screwing a bunch, then at least you will be socially equipped to seduce this girl and you've now given yourself a chance. As you are handling it now though, you have no chance. By letting go, you will either realize you are good without her, or you will learn how to get her. It's a win win.

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