[bobhalford]

nature,

I read your story and found it rather moving. I once had an experience similar to this, but the circumstances were very different.

I think your mistake was to get invovled this way with this woman. You made a terrible mistake by allowing you and her to get on with one another as just friends. Things like love are not supposed to develop over years. It's not like after a year of these sporadic meetings, the two of you decide you are in love.

You have to try and tag that pussy as soon as you can. You don't [censored] wait 2 years or whatever to tell her how you feel. You should be trying to find a way to kiss her the 2nd or 3rd time you meet up with her. If she doesn't want it, that's it. You cut off the relationship because I'll tell you one thing, she's not changing her mind.

I know if I want to nail someone within 5 minutes (arguably closer to 5 milliseconds). Girls are this way too. You just don't grow to be attracted to someone. I think that idea is a bit silly to be honest. So your presumption that your friendship could grow into love was very misguided.

If you had done what is normal to do (hit that [censored] as soon as possible, or at least try to kiss her), you never would be in the situation you are in now. You would have found out early enough how she felt for it not to hurt you too much. You would be upset that this great girl wasn't into you, but it wouldn't take long at all to get over it.

Now you are in a bad situation where you are thinking about this girl. You deserve to be in this situation for your lack of emotional intelligence. It was a stupid assumption for you to make (repeating what I said above) and this is what you get for it. I estimate that this will take at least 2-3 more years for you to recover from.

On New Years Eve I was hanging out with this female friend of mine. I've known her for 12 years, but we've only been seeing each other as friends for about 6 months. So she gets drunk at this party and starts saying "Kiss me, kiss me!" I was like WTF are you [censored] serious? She's like, "You're not attracted to me? Are you physically attracted to me?" I couldn't believe what I was hearing (well, not so much that she wanted to [censored] me but that she would go so far to say this [censored] to me). You know, if I had ever been attracted to this girl, I would have made a move 12 years ago! She should know this too. So I'm pretty upset about this now because I thought I had a friend, only to find out this girl just wants to lick my stick. It's [censored] rude. Now I don't know if I can hang with her anymore.

So you deserve what you've got. Take it as a life lesson in how men and women hook up. They don't know each other for years and decide they're in love. Maybe in your fantasy world they do, but in real life if people like each other and want to make love then they go ahead and do it. What the hell do you think she was thinking? That she really liked this guy but didn't know how to tell him? That she wasn't sure how she felt lol? And you play poker?