Re: My son wants to get laid
BB,
I'm 22, but here's my take on things as a young person in the 21st century.
1) Doors open policy - clearly isn't working anyway since you say the doors end up closed, why worry too much about it? This, however, is much simpler for you than actually talking to your son about sex, or even telling him you understand what its like to be 16 (I assume you WERE 16 at one point) and be mature with the conversation.
2) "When her parents say its ok"...riiight. If your son is as smart as you say he is, you think he doesn't see that for the BS it is? How many girls did you know when you were 16 that would have had parents saying "sure, whatever"?
Who among us DIDN'T want to get laid when we were 16? If they're ready for it, they're going to find a way too get it done. You can either hide it from them and make them feel like they need to hide, or be open about it and hope that your influence will have them making positive, responsible decisions. Especially if they're just making out and taking a few awkward gropes at each other. They grow up, life moves on. If he at least knows how to use a condom (which he does, he's 16, kids know a lot these days) then he's probably not going to knock her up or get VD.
Just my $.02 like I said, from a young guy's point of view. I'm not saying you need to endorse them having sex, I mean it is your house and all, but if you want the boy to be a good young man, this is reality check time.
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