[Tarheel]

Depguy -

First off, all of us here wish you the best. Feel free to PM me if you ever need to.

Now, everything that you said in your original post, you need to say to your girlfriend. If you can't tell her what is going on in your life and what's important and necessary for you, then she's probably not a very good companion for you.

I'm not saying that you need to share every last detail about everything with each other, but at the minimum she needs to understand the pressing need for change in your situation for these two reasons:

A) Your own personal happiness
B) Your financial security as a couple


I know you said that you had tried to explain to her before, but my feeling is that you were very vague or unconvincing in the explanation of the signifigance of the conversation. The conversation needs to entail more than "I need privacy when i am playing poker." She needs to understand why. If you were to print your post out and hand it to her to read, it would hit her fairly hard. You need to be able to convey that same actuality to her when you are talking to her.


There are plenty of self-help books available that deal with effectively communication and communication techniques. Hit up the library and check a few out. Nobody can ever be too strong of a communicator, so brushing up on your skills is always a good idea.

- Tarheel