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(This is taking for granted a relative level of physical attrativeness - I care way less than most guys, particularly OOT guys, but it's just reality that you're not going to get past it if you find someone physically repulsive)

1. Intelligence. If a girl is smarter than I am, she can totally own me.
2. Artsiness, or at least an appreciation of all (well, all good) things artistic. A girl with a creative outlet is way, way hot to me, whether they can sing, play an instrument, paint, draw, write, whatever. They can also own me. If they don't *do* something creative, though, I want them to at least appreciate good art. I do not want a girl who wants to watch Sweet Home Alabama 182 or some crappy tv show (except for those watched *because of* their crappiness, of course), or listen to (whatever's on the radio right now...I don't even know anymore). I like a girl with a little flair who likes interesting things. Not even necessarily what I like, but something that *she* likes because *she* likes it, not because it's the crap that's on all the time. The best scenario is when our tastes overlap about 75% of the time, so there's enough common ground to have conversations and enjoy things together, but enough different that we can share new things with each other. Also, it's cool if we have mutually exclusive tastes on some things, because who wants to agree about everything with someone??
3. Interesting personality. This sometimes means insane... [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img] But usually not. I don't want a girl who's goal in life is to be "normal." Nor do I particularly want someone whose goal is to be "different." I just want someone whose personality is their own, not what they think others would (or would not) want it to be. I appreciate someone with their own mind.
4. Someone who acts like they care about me. Sounds kind of obvious, but by this I just mean a girl who does little things every once in a while. A girl who acts like a servant would be creepy. But a girl who knows you're going to be late to work so she cooks you breakfast while you're in the shower even though you didn't ask and you normally do it yourself is wonderful. Also, a girl cares expressing that she cares about the little things you do for her is really nice. A girl who appreciates it when you do something for her, and lets you know that she appreciates it, makes you *want* to do things for her.
5. I like when a girl can bring me out of my shell and expand my horizons a bit by getting me to do something I normally wouldn't. Not sexually, btw (well, not necessarily sexually... [img]/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img] ). Could just be doing some activity that I'd normally never do but she convinces me to do.
6. I like it when a girl likes to have sex at least as much as I do, both qualitatively and quantitatively.
7. Girls who aren't judgemental. Essentially, I am very accepting of a girl's faults if I love that girl. I want the same in return. Love the whole person, not just selective bits. For instance, a girl doesn't have to like the fact that I will, no matter what, watch every single minute of every single eagles game every year until the day I die. They just have to be ok with it and not nag me about it. I do the same in return. This extends to quirks both in the way they act and with regards to personality traits. I am very forgiving of odd personality traits if the girl's heart is good and they treat me well.
8. I do NOT want a girl who acts like she owns me. We can spend a lot of time together, and have input into each other's lives, but the girl can not tell me how to run every element of my life, particularly when it doesn't affect her.
8a. Related to that point, a touch of jealousy's great - "I don't like that girl, I don't trust her around you!" makes a guy feel wanted. "You're not going out with your friends tonight" is absolutely not okay, and will quickly (!) lead to the end of any relationship.

Those are the big ones for me, off the top of my head.

-bb.