Re: I SENT YOU A PM
nd I gave her much affection and we screwed (for the first time in a while)
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First time in a while!? Like I said, you got problems my friend. One screw won't make them go away.
To those who say I am a pussy, you are probably right. I do have that tendency with chicks, especially with her. But again, she's not a liar, she would never sneak around. What I am afraid of is losing her, not losing face. If that makes me a pussy, fine.
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It is not about being pussy. It is about ACTING LIKE A MAN. Part of being a man is setting boundries and rules how others should treat you. Women respect men of strength and principles. You are going down a road where you will LOSE your woman and worse your SELF-RESPECT. I've been there. I had to learn it the hard way and evidently you do too. Know this, an average man may be twice as physical strong as a woman but the average woman is twice as EMOTIONAL strong as a man. She is smacking you around emotionally and you're too punch-drunk to see straight.
But I think the solution as others have said is counseling and honesty, not spying.
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There might be some good counselers out there but I know there are lots of bad ones. And NO you should not have to spy.... You should have a women who you trust. You don't have that now. Keep your eyes open buddy. If she starts going out for unexplained periods of time, I'd shop around for a good lawyer.
I will continue to tell her how wrong I think her "friendship" with this guy is, but I'm not gonna strongarm her. I'm not going to complain about it like a bitch,
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I've done the EXACT thing you doing now so I hope this softens the blow. You're acting like a bitch now. What you need to be is FIRM and ANGRY but a CALM and CONTROLED WAY. She is acting like a single woman. Not a married one. Sometimes to keep a woman you need to risk losing her. You need to say:
(1) She is behaving like a single woman
(2) You don't like it.
(3) You are not going to put up with it.
(4) If things don't changed NOW, you will make choices for her.
***(5)*** Be a man and follow up with #4, if she calls your hand. Hint, if she calls your hand, then this means you already lost her. All you appeasing now just put off the inevidentible.
I'm just going to remind her that I think what she is doing makes me unhappy. I think eventually she'll just realize she's just being contrary, particularly if I start showing her more attention.
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