[Foucault]

Women are such bitches. My girlfriend pulls this kind of [censored] all the time, she does something wrong, I call her on it, then she gets all sad and upset, and I'm the one who ends up suffering, apologizing, and/or feeling bad. Thankfully she's very understanding/supportive of poker, though. My sympathies, guy.

The only better way I can think of to handle it is for you to be the one refusing sex (which I realize is a big sacrifice to make, especially when married, but in this case it doesn't look like you were getting any anyway. So when she asks if you are coming upstairs, you can say something like, "I'm not really in the mood anymore," so that it's like you are turning her down, even though she wasn't really offering. You don't have to be pissy or dramatic about it, just kind of matter-of-fact. Women derive a lot of power from the knowledge that you are going to desire them sexually pretty much no matter what. I think it can be a real shock to them to be turned down, and it may even make her want you more in the long run.