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I'm a regular poster so I too am using another account.

This struck a cord with me because I went through the same thing a few years ago. My wife had an email and phone buddy who was actually a former boss. These emails and phone conversations always seemed a little strange and too friendly but I never thought "it could happen to me". Someone suggested that they might be having an affair and I thought, there's no way. But a small voice said, what if? So, being a techie, I installed a keystroke logger on the computer, and within hours I had proof. Sure enough they were sleeping together.

If I learned anything, it's that you should trust your instincts on this. If it bothers you, then something inappropriate is definitely going on. Maybe it hasn't gotten physical but believe me if will at some point. Doesn't have to be physical to be an affair.

I agree with Dominic. There is nothing right about this. You need to get confrontational and demand that that this stop right away. Demand to see the emails. If she refuses, get a keystroke logger and bug your computer. It sounds horrible but you'll never feel right until you know.

Took me a couple years to work through the pain of an affair. Just speaking from experience. You need to nip this in the bud now!