[jaydub]

This is a terrible situation. Either take dom's great advice or...

Turn it around. Make friends with ridiculously good looking women, hire a maid / nanny / whatever based solely on her assets, and just be a flirty, friendly guy. All platonic of course but it gets the message across.

I really don't see any other play because you cannot handle her having a male friend. This situation with the compromise you describe is terrible and far worse than what you started with.

Good luck.