[talentdeficit]

it's the depth of the relationships that makes it a really bad idea to say anything now.

joe is emotionally invested in this girl. extremely emotionally invested. there is zero upside to telling him anything. he knows and at best he's uncomfortable talking about it with you or he knows and he'll be pissed you're talking about it with others or he doesn't know and he won't believe it and he'll hate you for talking about it period or he doesn't know and he will believe it and you'll take the blame for [censored] up his relationship. his healthy, happy relationship.

no matter what, if you bring it up, you're screwing your friend. if he cared about her past, he would have already looked into it.

plus, he doesn't want to know. he really doesn't. i promise you.