[ScottyP431]

Brian,

You need to stop with your inquisitions. Questions like that put you in the stranger mode, when you hang with buddies you have known for a long time you don't ask them what they do, where they live etc. Use the pattern of familliar talk to your advantage and talk to the girl you just met like you have known her forever.

How do people who know each other speak? Less questions, more statements. You should be the protagonist of all your statements. Want to find out what kind of food she likes?

Wrong: What kind of food do you like?

Better but still wrong: Do you like mexican food? I know a great place where they serve the queso in an alligator.

Correct

Brian: I really like Mexican food, even though it's all pretty much the same thing, why do they always have such big confusing menus? I think it's to embarass the white people.

Her: Oh my god I know! I never know what to order at a chinese place either.

You: Yea, chinese people are so snobby, always bragging about their walls and reproductive prowess.

Her: But I love cream cheese wantons, so they can't be all bad.

you: Nice, not only are you sexy, but you're a positive thinking master of race relations, you're a real double threat.

Keep the talk light, fun, and keep away from questions.

Second, talk about yourself. Not in terms of you're job, how much money you have in the bank, your [censored] khakis, but talk about how you feel and think about things she mentions, i.e. relate to them. Thats how girls talk (think empathy)

her: God, I'm so pissed off, I normally get free golf balls but tonight they stiffed me!

You: why do you normally get free golf balls?

WRONG

Don't draw attention to the fact that you don't know her, don't know anything about her etc. What would you say to a guy friend who just uttered the same complaint

You: They are probably mad you never give them anything free in return. They probably just want you to like, you know.... wash their car or something

Her: That doesn't make any sense

Ignore her attempt to brush of your witty remark and kill the conversation, move on with NO TRANSITION, or a small one if you must

You: I bet ball collectors are way worse when they go crazy than mailmen.

Whatever it is, just say it and have it not be a question.