[DrewDevil]

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so cheating is obviously a big problem in this particular context.

however, cheating does not necessarily mean the relationship is over, but obviously the deception has to stop.

if she's screwing someone else on the sly then obviously the relationship is missing something... but OP and fiancee might be able to talk things through, work things out, move forward. maybe they just both need to open up the relationship to other people. maybe not.

but they should definitely talk it out soon.

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Are you serious w/ this? Have you ever been in a long-term relationship where your gf was cheating on you??? I have.

You can/may try working it out b/c she's all you've known for the past x number of years but in the end, you will NOT trust her. If she was cheating on him, the relationship is over whether or not it ends today. You will NEVER have the piece of mind back that comes from trust.

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I agree that it's painful and I said it's probably a death knell for most relationships.

But there are also many examples of couples who have survived infidelity / adultery and patched things up. I'm not advising OP to do this or to not do this. I'm simply stating that they have a long history and a child together, and it wouldn't hurt to think about trying to work things out.

Obviously trust has been severely compromised if not destroyed forever. But there are always possibilities.