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Sounds like a bummer dude. Don't go quietly in this. She's the one who decided to leave, don't let her push you out of the house or inconvenience you w/r/t work and commuting. I've had breakups like this (albeit not a marriage) and my advice is, beware of the real reasons. She may well be saying these things but is really covering up for an affair or the desire to have one. People don't just end a marriage without some other prospect on the horizon, or already in hand.

Sounds like there's a good chance this can go down in a civilized way, just stand your ground and hang in there. Sorry to hear it.

NT

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WOW. Just WOW. First time opening this thread and I could get no further than this. Not sure if anyone else has replied to the statement in bold but WOW.

So when I left/divorced my wife of 13 years because somewhere alomg the way she developed a nasty crack habit I must have had something else going on?

or

I discover that my wife has become a degenerate gambler and the kid's college savings won't even get them in the door at the JC, I actually want to bang the checkout girl at the market and she said hi to me?

or

I am totally unhappy with my life. In the past 5 years of a 20 year marriage we have had sex 2 times and can't weven bear the thought of holding hands anymore. I actually must be doing the lady next door?

I coudl go on and on but that statement is so wrong and misleading I had to call you on it.