Re: She left me
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Was she abused as a child? Did her father abuse her mother? Did she have a father? Other than the current situation does she strike you as caring more about others or more about herself(you must choose one)?
I'm just wondering if she is screwed up in some significant way or simply selfish.
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I guess she's just selfish. She's an only child...but she's always treated me well...not perfectly, though, she is pretty self-centered. I guess I just believed her words rather than her actions. I'm pretty naive sometimes. Still, her parents have a pretty healthy marriage that has been going for like 30 years. She always said that she wanted to be like them...and I took it as a good sign. Probability=meh.
Other questions:
Chip: No kids...just a dog that I didn't want and am now stuck taking care of...at least it's loyal tho. Haha?
imitation: if she's cheating with you, let me know ok?
all: She has contributed way more than half of our networth. She makes about 1.5x as much money. Maybe that's a factor? [img]/images/graemlins/crazy.gif[/img] Anyway, if I get 50% it will be more than fair, since she's supported me while I went to school for like 8 years.
siccjay: I still love her as much as I did the day we met. I guess I thought that this whole thing would blow over and the counseling would just heal things quickly. Like I said, naive. She's the only woman I've ever cared about this much...etc etc...she's also wicked hot. Pic will not be happening however. Unless she cheated on me. Keep your fingers crossed OOT!
rory: I'm assuming that's directed at inchoate...and you're right, he gives great advice.
ALL:
Here's the thing about pushing things forward myself...I really think this would violate my belief in the sanctity of marriage (sanctity, not sanity...little of the latter obv)...Many of you disagree with that in principle, but when I made promises on my wedding day, I didn’t add: “unless some crazy s—t happens and you change your mind”…I wouldn’t have honor or integrity if I didn’t try to follow the commitment I made to never give up.
More importantly, I want to believe that it's not over… and if I just end it myself now I have no shot...But I'll try to keep in mind that if it really is over I should start calling shots myself to gain some more control over my life. I'll probably move out of town, maybe just pick up and travel for a few months...I dunno. I like my job but this town has little going for it other than her.
Another tough thing is that I have very few close friends in this city…they’ve all moved away…I can’t really go calling people up like a teenager and hanging out with my family is too depressing right now. Anyway, I know OOT is the wrong place for advice and consolation, cuz we’re all such sarcastic a-holes, but this thread has made me feel a bit better. Thanks again…
--GA
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